Losing It: Best Advice for Weight Loss and Health Gain

You can always tell when it’s January because the the gym population swells by 50%.  By March, the New Year’s Resolutionists have packed their LuLu Lemon bags, not to return until the following January. My advice – don’t put “exercise more” and “eat better” on a New Year’s resolutions list; just start doing it. And don’t call it a diet. The word diet sets us up for failure – it implies deprivation and has a short-term connotation. Simply list a few rules about how you want to approach food choices, follow them rigidly for a month and they’ll become habit. The language we use when we think about change, is as important as the change itself.

The best advice I can give on healthy eating for 2012 is this:

1. Stop eating diet food

Meaning “sugar-free” and “fat-free” food.  The problem with it, is not only do we have to compromise on taste (deprivation) but when we eat it, we think “this is diet food” and subconsciously eat more of it. If you eat plain yogurt with a touch of honey or fresh fruit, you’re not thinking “this doesn’t really count”, which is what we are thinking when we eat artificially sweetened yogurt, “25 calorie” caramel rice cakes and sugar-free ice cream.  There is no free lunch, but fat-free, sugar-free foods trick us into thinking there is.

2. Don’t count calories

Consuming fewer calories is critical if you’re trying to lose weight, but what happens when you get caught up in the counting, is you get away from the nutritional value of food and further away from your body’s needs. (A small piece of salmon and a cupcake have the same number of calories.)  Instead plan out three healthy meals per day, plus “allowable” snacks. Make very clear rules of what’s allowed and not allowed, but don’t “not allow” foods simply because they are high in calories (I am a huge advocate of nuts even when trying to drop a few pounds). Having clear boundaries is actually far more liberating and easier to follow than allowing small but consistent rule breaking.

3. Spend more time with food

Think you can’t love food and lose weight? Losing weight is not about loving food less, it’s about loving you more.  If you’re over-weight, it’s easy to feel like food has control over you, so get control over it.  See food as your ally.  The more time and love and connection you have with your food, the more nutritious the foods you choose will be and the more mindful you will be when eating.  Take pleasure in buying fresh ingredients. Get acquainted with your pots and clear out space in your freezer so you can make big batches of homemade food to have on hand.

4. Eat before you eat

It sounds counter intuitive, but when you start getting really hungry before lunch or dinner for example, have a tiny snack (six almonds, some baby carrots) and by the time you eat the meal 20 minutes later, you’ll be far less likely to indulge.

5. Don’t even try battling temptation

When you’re rested or you’ve had an amazing workout you can resist temptation, but when you’re over-worked, under-slept it’s so easy to take comfort in ice cream.  So don’t chance it.  Don’t even invite temptation in, meaning don’t buy a single thing that requires discipline in its presence. And if you do cross paths with a particularly aggressive cupcake, take a bite and toss the rest.  Better still, toss it down the garbage disposal so there is no chance of retrieving it.

6. Go to bed hungry

I know we’re told it’s the number of calories and not when they’re eaten, that affects our weight, but I don’t believe it.  Even if science won’t prove it, eating a big meal at 9pm and going to bed full will keep your weight exactly where it is.  Going to bed a little hungry means your body can burn off fat (not food) while you sleep.  I can only speak personally on this one, but I’ve found it makes a huge difference.

7. Get off the scale

Weighing yourself frequently gets demoralizing. Hop on the scale once a week at most. Better still, forget the scale and base your health on how your clothes fit and the energy you have.

8. Don’t eat when stressed

Just don’t. It always ends in regret.

9. Be forgiving

So you had a brownie. Tomorrow you won’t have a brownie. If this were so easy, losing weight would not be the number one new year’s resolution. The feeling of failure, which usually leads to simply giving up, is far more destructive than a 200-calorie brownie.

10. Your best advice here….please share!

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  • Regina

    re #6: Am I the only one who can’t sleep when hungry? And not only “really” hungry, but even just slightly so? If I eat my last meal too early I’ll wake up in the middle of the night unable to get back to sleep. So for me that 9 pm meal sounds just about right (I don’t eat any big meals in the conventional sense, a meal might be some protein and plenty of veggies).
    And a happy New Year to you and your readers!

  • Mr Wildwildwest

    I have found staying away from high-glycemic, highly processed high-carb foods are a big culprit. When I was a hospital administrator there were 4-5 of us who stuck to a modified Atkins (of sorts) food plan which allowed plenty of carbs, as long as they were healthy (vegetables!). I felt good, and didn’t gain weight.  Now that I work from home, I eat lots of processed foods and have gained quite a few pounds. It certainly is cheaper to eat junk food these days…

  • Mr Wildwildwest

    I can’t go to bed hungry; besides I take some meds right before bedtime and I swear they make me want to eat a dozen doughnuts! I try to take something healthy to bed, like a small tangerine or something similar.

  • Mr Wildwildwest

    I can’t go to bed hungry; besides I take some meds right before bedtime and I swear they make me want to eat a dozen doughnuts! I try to take something healthy to bed, like a small tangerine or something similar.

  • Mr Wildwildwest

    I can’t go to bed hungry; besides I take some meds right before bedtime and I swear they make me want to eat a dozen doughnuts! I try to take something healthy to bed, like a small tangerine or something similar.

  • Mr Wildwildwest

    I can’t go to bed hungry; besides I take some meds right before bedtime and I swear they make me want to eat a dozen doughnuts! I try to take something healthy to bed, like a small tangerine or something similar.

  • http://www.thehealthwish.com/ RoseAnne

    Great ideas and I agree with all of them except #7 (at least for me). Maybe because I have finally been able to terms with gradual weight loss, I prefer getting on the scale every morning. It keeps me honest and really works better for me.

    My husband and I have taken to having a rather large salad before our “main” meal – which is therefore considerably smaller and generally only consisting of a protein source and another veggie. We are getting so much more vegetables this way.

    Another tip is to drink a large glass of water whenever you feel like you are hungry a couple of hours after a meal. I find the “hunger” goes away in about 10 minutes, indicating it really wasn’t hunger at all.

    By eating more vegetables and eliminating all processed carbs we have regulated my husband’s blood sugar down to a healthy level and I have dropped 35 pounds. :)

  • http://twitter.com/KarmaCucina KarmaCucina

    You’re preaching to the choir… Terrific post!  I agree with all of your points and I’d like to expand on them or add a couple:
    1)  To your first point: yes, diet and fat-free junk has to go.  We all need to eat real food.  Your body wasn’t trained to process ingredients like xantham gum and aspartame.  It was designed long before these fillers and fakers were.  There are no ingredient lists in the food I eat – only the recipes I follow. When I started adopting this way of living/eating, I noticed major positive changes in my energy and appearance.
    2)  Figure out how you like to move and do it. The weight loss and health gain will follow.  It’s counter-intuitive, but I definitely have more energy post-workout than I did before.  Maybe it’s the endorphins?  Anyhow, I love to run, but understand that’s not for everyone.  When you find something you like to do, it’s not a chore, but a release and investment in your body.

  • Anonymous

    Absolutely, positively agree with everything you wrote. Would add one thing: Ditch the processed oils. They have no nutritional benefit yet are the most concentrated source of calories there is. And it’s easy to cook without them!

  • http://www.thesweetbeet.com Michelle Madden

    Perhaps “hungry” is too strong a word, but I would def say, “do not go to bed full”. Even if it’s a small handful of nuts or a piece of fruit right before bed, that’s generally enough to keep your stomach from gurgling but not so much that your stomach is having to work hard while you sleep.

  • Christine

    All I can say is “The Dukan Diet” by Dr. Pierre Dukan. It’s French, and those women know how to keep it off. No calories or hungar. I’ve lost 40 lbs and I’ve been dieting all my life to no avail. Some of your comments I agree with but I do eat before bed, can’t sleep otherwise..I’ve never used the scale but I do now and am happy to see the pounds come off everyday. Good luck!

  • http://annasadventuresinhealth.com/ Anna

    Those are great ‘rules’ for not only weight loss, but a healthy ‘diet’ for life!  I am trying to recognize and break some of my bad food habits..like I don’t need that extra bite or snack after I eat, but rather let my food digest and then decide if I am truly hungry.  I value eating whole grains and proteins with most meals/snacks.  I also think avoiding sugar and processed foods really helps!

  • Lynn

    Great advice, and another really eye opening suggestion would be to read this article from Sunday’s NY Times magazine about research that shows how the body reacts when significant weight is lost:
    http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/magazine/tara-parker-pope-fat-trap.html?_r=1

  • Farmrik

    Great post Michelle. And great courage for not being afraid to tackle a subject that has great controversy surrounding it. You always impress me by not being afraid to take a stand.

    Rick Machado
    Machado Farms

  • RonnieReason

    All great advice Michelle, especially going to bed hungry. So many
    times over the years I’ve seen it disputed—but it works—it really really works!
    Of course one must also consume quality nosh and less of it while remaining vertical as much as possible
    (when conscious).

  • jmack

    Beautiful! And if you need more rules, pick up Michael Pollan’s Food Rules – which includes these rules (or versions of them) and a few more. Like shop the periphery of the grocery store, eat til you’re 70% full and have desert – but only if you make it yourself from scratch.

  • Alicia

    Great post.  I incorporate all of these things.  I do think one needs to eat a small amount of protein before bed otherwise your blood sugar can drop resulting in a cortisol response that wakes you up at 3:00am.  This ultimately leads to disrupting your circadian rhythm and getting enough sleep is just as important for weight loss and health as is making good food choices.  We want a surge of cortisol when we wake up to get us going, not at 3:00am.  

  • Morgan

    Limited to no carbs (have fruits, veggies and quinoa count as carbs, ditch the grains, pasta, bread and processed crap). NO MORE DAIRY! Good quality protein. Increase healthy fats (YES, FATS as in extra virgin olive oil, avocado, coconut and soaked seeds and nuts.) Exercise as much as possible, even walking everyday is good. Watch the pounds melt away.

  • Fred

    Good post and comments. Although, fortunately, I have never had to diet, there is some helpful and interesting information here. And remind me never to get into a psych war with Michelle, she knows brain tricks and I would lose big time!

  • Fred

    Good post and comments. Although, fortunately, I have never had to diet, there is some helpful and interesting information here. And remind me never to get into a psych war with Michelle, she knows brain tricks and I would lose big time!

  • Autumn

    Eat naked!  You’ll pay much more attention to your body and it’s needs…  :)  

  • http://profiles.google.com/babsyboo81 Bethany Sires

    The glass of water thing really works. A trainer I had told me about this. Many times when our bodies get the “hungry” feeling, we are actually dehydrated. Drinking a cup of water (~ 8oz), then waiting 20min and see how you feel. If you still feel hungry, eat a small heathly snack.

  • Fred

    Smiling, you gotta be from Cali! Nice antidote.

  • http://www.thesweetbeet.com Michelle Madden

    Though you might find yourself having more meals alone, which some say leads to eating more….

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Alex-Callman/100003328600773 Alex Callman

    I always check out this website before buying any products in weight loss – http://www.topproductsplace.com/weightloss.php.
    It’s my personal favourite  because it works the better way.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Alex-Callman/100003328600773 Alex Callman

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    It’s my personal favourite  because it works the better way.

  • Kate

    and yet, science has shown time and again how wrong several of these are – that people who have long term success at keeping weight off (Because it isn’t losing it that is key but keeping the weight off for a year or longer) DO weigh themselves regularly (typically daily) and DO track what they eat (essentially counting calories in a simpler form) and that it IS about battling temptation because it ISN’T easy.  http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/magazine/tara-parker-pope-fat-trap.html

  • Fred

    Laughing………..good point!

  • Deirdre

    Something I might add to your list, is write it down. Keeping a food journal has helped many people take and keep the extra weight off. When you record honestly, you see what you’ve already had that day, you can count it up in calories, fat, carbs, food groups, which ever accounting appeals to you most, and you can make notes about how long before hungry, which cravings came up, how mood/energy levels were affected. In some cases, it helps people identify a food sensitivity which was part of the reason for the weight gain.  

    Also, did you hear the discussion with Tara Parker-Pope on On Point this morning?  About her article in the NYTimes magazine this weekend?  Some interesting findings, mostly about weight maintenance after the initial loss.

    Happy New Year!

  • Patricia

    Amen! Let’s see if I can follow along… and move more!
    Happy New Year!

  • Grumpity

    Get enough sleep. (Some) research shows that few things help with weight loss as much as a healthy sleep cycle. 

  • http://www.thesweetbeet.com Michelle Madden

    I am a huge believer as well, in a good sleep as the first and maybe the most important step in eating well.

  • Ticketpocket

    You may already have said this but I missed it: eat smaller servings of anything you want. And use a variety of food that you like: brown rice, sauteed broccoli, a piece of chicken, maybe sliced fresh tomatoes. Fill up and exercise.

  • Mcsq113

    Such good advice, I agree with all of it! Thank you! I can see how number 7 can sound weird to some people but I agree with this. I’ve found that everyone gains weight differently- people beat themselves up about the digits on a scale because we all want less. But it really differs on people. I’m 5’8 and a size 8. I’ve been a runner all my life and my legs and arms are very toned yet I weight 180 and some friends of mine who ARE overweight still weight less than I do even though I look thinner. There’s no use in beating yourself up over numbers. If you feel good, and look great, that’s all that matters!

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